What IF

Read my baby’s blog just now, and get amazed by her answer! Her answers are so funny yet so ‘real-life’. COOL!!!

On the other hand, I have different answers for some questions, and thus, I copy the questions and answered them in my own way (well, I had get the permission from my baby, she APPROVED, so, I am not plagiarized)

She called. Asked. Random questions.

(Q1) What if he knows you have got the right one now instead of him?
A1: Well, the condition is obvious enough, since he knows I got the right one now, so just leave me alone.
best friends?
(Q2) What if he treats you as good as other ？
A2: Ok, since there is no any differences, so, lets be friend instead of couples, fair enough!

(Q3) What if his best friend loves him like you do?
A3: I can’t control what his best friends probably will do on him, but he should knows the boundaries of friendship. I do not want to be a teacher to teach him how to settle this kind of condition step-by-step. Annoying. Please use his mind to think think think and -T-H-I-N-K!

(Q4) What if his academic performance not as good as yours?
A4: Academic performance isnt the thing I love on him, as long as he knows what is his strength and well-used on his own strengths, then will be good enough. Academic performance doesnt mean anything, his attitude towards life and me are the matter to me.

(Q5) What if he takes advantage of you?
Q5: If he really loves me, and I love him, I don really care if he takes advantage of me. I am willing to sacrifice for him. Want to take the advantage? Take la then.

(Q6) What if he promises or tells that he plans to get you something he can’t afford right now in the future?
A6: Well, I do not really trust with promises. Someone promised me a lot that he will do this and that and asked me to put trust on him, but in the end, turns up with broke up. As long as he really loves me, he can just prove it to me via his actions, not the promises. Promises are just nothing to me. Promises = “PRO-MISS” (professional in missing)

(Q7) What if he asks you to marry him now?
A7: If I really love him and he is the Mr. Right to me, why not? Let’s get married now. Come on baby! Well, after all, have to consider how he proposes and when he proposes, if not unique enough, please get off, if in the wrong timing, deserve the consequences then. LOL! Still dare to ask me to marry you?

(Q8) What if he follows what others advise him instead of taking your suggestions seriously?
A8: If this incident happened occasionally, it would not be a problem to me, perhaps my suggestions not acceptable. But, if this condition happens all the time, what for to ask for my suggestions, just ask others, that’s it! Do not take my suggestions seriously means that he does not respect me, follows what others advise him means he is a follower.

(Q9) What if he gets jealous seeing you with another best guy friend?
A9: Do not tell me jealous means care or love, that’s so ridiculous, a nonsense statement. I have my own social circle, and he is my best friend, what’s wrong if I interact with him? You can have your own best girl friends, but I can’t? What a reason! Unacceptable! If I have to stop from interacting with my males’ friend after being with him, okay, please go off, I’M NOT YOURS ANYMORE.

(Q10) What if he borrows money from you?
A10: It’s ok, depend on the amount and the reason he gives to me. If I think the reason is acceptable, then it wouldn't be a problem. But, after all, the decision is rely on the amount of trustworthy I had on him, still. If he does not have any bad record previously, it would not be a problem to borrow money from me.

(Q11) What if he apologizes with flowers as gift & sincerity?
A11: Okay, he would be totally disqualified. When in the honey-moon stage, he gives flowers; when want to apology, gives flowers too, so, where is the point? The flower represents nothing. And thus, flowers mean nothing to me, even though I am happy to receive flowers, but, I prefer to receive something more valuable and special if he wants to apology to me. Yet, be practical man!

(Q12) What if he kisses you in public?
A12: Depend on where, when, and why. Or else, deserve the consequences. Being the focus of the public represents romantic? Bullshit. If he does not have a valid reason on why he did so, what he probably will get are S-L-A-P-S!!!

(Q13) What if he doesn't love you anymore?
A13: Simple, if doesnt love me anymore, just end the relationship, no point to drag it. Be frank instead of being a ‘relationship-dragger'. Take out your gut and be F-R-A-N-K.

(Q14) What if he gambles?
A14: If he gambles during the festival time or occasionally for fun, it’s ok to me. If he is a full-time gambler, it’s okay, married someone else.

(Q15) What if he asks for cohabitation?
A15: No way, as Jocey said, according to Interactive Psych, the probabilities of end up a relationship among cohabitating couples are high. So, no way, I don want to risk my own marriage. Well, guai guai, lets get 'cohabitate' after we married then. LOL~

(Q16)What if he's of another race?
A16: So? What’s wrong with that? No racism. But, sorry, I can’t accept though.

(Q17) What if he's of another religion?
A17: Erm... no comment, i don think this issue would be an issue.

(Q18) What if he runs illegal business?
A18: Hmmm, I recognized this question, Jocey asked me before when she was in my car. I had forgotten what I asked her. Well, possibly I will leave him regardless I know it before or after in the relationship, I just can’t accept this happen.

(Q19) What if he proposes to you in public with a huge diamond ring?
A19: I said I hate to be the attention of others in the public!!! The social pressure is strong, so, do not ever expect I will accept the propose in the public. I will just walk away and leave him alone there. This is not romantic.

(Q20) What if he's moving over to another country (e.g. S'pore) as required by working condition?
A20: If we are not yet married, I will agree he moves over to another country to further his career path into more advanced. If we are married, but do not have child yet, I will still make the same decision, move for your good and same to the family. But, if we are married, and we have children, come on, let’s pray together.

(Q21) What if he insists to stay with his parents even though you both get married?
A21: No comments. It’s totally fine to me regardless live with his parents or only 2-peoples-world. Both are accpetable.

(Q22) What if he wants kids but you don't?
A22: Well, I like kids, and thought of want to give birth to 2 kids. But, since the day I watched the child-birth video clip on YOU-TUBE, they’re really freak me off, and thus, it become a phobia to me. I’m still considering if want to have own kids in future.

(Q23) What if he buys a house (single/double storey... whatever) for marriage with 3 rooms only?
A23: So far so good, he may buys house with 3 rooms for marriage for the first few years, one as the study or working room, one as master room, and one as his back-up room. LOL. But, frankly, 3 rooms wouldn’t be enough for a family, what about my kids? Where they supposed to sleep and study? AT LEAST need 4 rooms – one is master room, one as his back-up room, one as working room and another one for kid’s room. Well, seriously, it's doesnt matter how big size the house is, as long as we stay in comfortably and happy, then it would be more than enough d.

(Q24) What if he's announced bankcrupt after marriage?
A24: Won’t leave him for sure. Money doesn’t mean the intensity of our marriage, so, bankcrupt only wat, accept it then since it’s happened. No point to ask for divorce, or argue on it. That’s call S-T-U-P-I-D if the couple do so.

朋友

曾经父亲对我说过，我们应该将朋友分成9大类。那时的我，依然是个懵懂的小孩，并不清楚为何父亲要我将朋友分成那么多种，我不晓得为什么非要我将朋友的种类分的清清楚楚。父亲似乎见我似懂非懂的傻样子，所以便向我解释这9种朋友的区别。。。

(1) 点头朋友
这种朋友是纯属于非深交的朋友。当彼此遇见对方的时候，只是单纯地点 点个头，打打招呼， 再附上一个微笑。也许大家没怎么交谈过；也许只是一位萍水相逢的朋友；也许大家认识对方，但却觉得对方不应该在自己的生活圈子里出现。

(2) 招手朋友
这种朋友是属于比较有交谈的一种。第一，可以说是点头朋友的进一步 - 大家也许遇见了，觉得应该礼貌点，应该要有点交谈，所以便招个手谈谈天。第二，也许对这个人有更深一层的了解或觉得这是一位理想的朋友，所以想要有一些进一步的交谈。

(3) 谈天朋友
这种朋友是纯聊天的。在生活圈子里，我们时常会遇见这种朋友，我们会聊个天南地北，聊得非常痛快，但就是永远不会触碰到私事。

(4) 同学
简单。 同学就是同学，不管是否同班或同级，大家就只是同学而已。奇怪吧？非也非也。其实这并不奇怪，因为大家对称呼有所不同。看，有些人打电话给你或是找你就只是单单问功课，其他的事，他们一句也懒得问你。就算他们看到你心情差，只要能从你这儿得到想要的知识或资料，他们什么也不管，就随便问一问“还好吧？”“得空吗？”，然后就单刀直入的问他们要的事，其他的免谈。这就是所谓的同学。可恶吧？
其实同学也可以成为朋友的depend on how u categorized them.

(5) 好朋友
看到这个字眼就知道大家有不浅的交情。好朋友愿意陪同彼此度过困难的日子，等等。重要的是愿意用真诚相待，不刻意隐瞒，可以体谅对方的处境而且不会强迫友人跟随自己的节奏。但，每个好朋友并非能成为知己。大家都很诚实都很真，本应顺理成章的成为知己，但就是绝少了些什么。也许就是缺少了了解吧！

(6) 坏朋友
简单不过啦。 坏朋友就是会教唆你以及尝试控制你的行为。一位好的朋友是不会控制以及教唆我们的，他们不会要自己的朋友跟随自己的脚步走，他们会希望朋友有自己快乐的人生。而坏朋友呢，则是希望别人跟随在他们后面。比较普遍的我想大家都懂吧，就是一些教他人嫖，淫，烟，酒等等。也许我们生活中会有些坏习惯的朋友，但，并非每个都是坏朋友，也许他们又自个儿的苦衷。只要我们不受影响就足够了，出淤泥而不染。
路是我们自己的，选择也是我们做出的。我们都有自己一套的衡量器， 我们都晓得谁才是我们要交的朋友。

(7)普通朋友
就是combination of点头朋友，招手朋友以及谈天朋友。普普通通的交个朋友。

(8) 交心朋友
Those who 愿意交出诚意以及心出来。也许他们是我们的好朋友，而我们也非常相信他们的人格以及诚信，所以大家都放心交出彼此的心来维持彼此的友谊。。

(9) 知己
并不是每个人都能找到自己的知己。这也可以说是比较困难达到的一个阶段。知己就是一位你非常信任或完全信任的一位朋友，你深信他们不会背叛你也不会出卖以及愚弄你的人；而且你深信他或她会是你的明路灯，你的指南针。当你想要倾诉苦水的时候，他们会是最理想不过的对象。

我很庆幸父亲教我这个朋友的区别，虽然我并不是完全跟随每个categories，但至少它能让我比较早分辨出自己要的朋友。 Thanks ya dad！！