Saturday, April 27, 2013

Theory of Glass of Water

What would you describe "WATER'?

Okie, how about you are assigned to accomplish 2 missions as below:-

Mission 1:-
There is an empty glass placed on a table, and a jug of water placed just besides the glass.

Your mission is: You are required to fill the empty glass with the jug of water that prepared on the table, amount of the water is not limited.

So, how much water would you pour into the empty glass?

Mission 1: How much water would you pour into the empty glass?

Mission 2:-
So, you had made up your mind on the amount of the water that you wanted to fill into the empty glass, and you had filled it up.

Your mission now is: You are required to fill in the remaining water from the jug of water into the same glass. Hence, you are required to pour out the water from the glass you had just filled before fill it up again.

So, how much water would you willing to pour out from the glass before adding in the remaining from the jug?

Mission 2: How much water you willing to pour out from the glass you filled just now?

Do you know what is the aim of these two missions?
What did you learnt then?
Well, it's just a projection of the real-life situation.

In Mission 1, the empty glass actually represents an individual who knows nothing, and the jug of water represents the hunger of knowledge or desires to exposure this individual possessed. After the glass filled with water, the remaining unfilled space basically represents the room for the individual to grow.

In Mission 2, the filled glass represents the knowledge you gained through the experiences. So now, the question is: Are you willing to pour out the water from the filled glass and refill it with water again? Which this actually implies the question of "Are you willing to empty your mind again before crave for new knowledge?"

Try to think in this way:-
  • Are you willing to give up everything you have now and start all over again?
  • Would you open your heart to accept the opinions from others?
  • Would you set yourself free from expectation or assumptions before trying something new?
  • How much sacrifices you willing to make in order to achieve your goal?
  • Are you flexible enough to adapt into different circumstances?
  • etc..
So, by adopting the lesson of water into our real life scenarios, as below:-

Scenario:
"RT is a Senior Consultant in a company, and have serviced for more than 2years. Throughout the 2years services, she is the Top 3 performers in the company, she was given a lot of opportunity to involve in charity management, account management, client management and people management. However, she is well-aware that what she is currently doing basically just wouldn't helps much in the professionalism development she dreamt for in the industry, and there are not much rooms for the career growth in this company, if she wants to go further in this path"
"Now, she has an offer on hand with a reasonable salary package from a MNC company, but she has to start and build her career all over again, which is back to the junior consultant role and prove to new employer of her capability again. But on the other hand, she is already well-established in her current company. She is basically in the team lead list and she knew that she is gonna promoted to be team lead officially in 2months time." 
So, tell me, what would you do  if you are RT. Would you let go everything - sales record, title, knowledge, clients, reputation, client and candidate database - that you have built throughout the 2years in the company and restart and reestablish the reputation from zero again in new company?

The above scenario is just a small portion from our real-life. There are a lot more real-life scenarios happened 24/7 and 365 around the world. I believe, yourself, do experience this kind of dilemma..

So, ask yourself today: "Am I willing to empty my glass of water?"

 
 

Friday, April 26, 2013

Resignation

The 1st resignation letter that I ever prepared

FINALLY... My resignation is accepted and approved after struggled for a week from the day I tendered. It's really a tough decision to make though, but I know I have to make it no matter how...

The offers from both current and new company are what I am aiming all these while, although the direction somewhat different but it is still in recruitment industry, something I love to do where it could helps me to expand my social network and get to learn from some other people through their sharing :)

Boss, I know you have tried your best to counter-offer me with everything I wanted in the company in order to help me to grow in my career. I know you applied some psychological tactics in the negotiation throughout the discussion in this week, and seriously, you actually succeed in changing my mind, once. That's why I am struggled a lot as I know I would definitely regret if I let go my another offer and choose to stay in current company..

After went through all those tough moments, all the gossips and rumours should have just leave it here.. By May onwards, I shall have a brand new beginning in my life and career.. I am anticipating it... I know, I can do it!


Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Prophecy of Watches

Christmas gift 2012 - SEIKO
It was a total surprise to receive this watch as Christmas present from someone that I never ever expect will have such heart-warming action. Seriously, I am in love with this watch, and even appreciate the meaning behind as well as the efforts of this someone..

However, it's somehow a priming effects to me, now..
A dreadful one...
A heart-breaking one...
An unexpected one...

So, would you curious how could a watch can become a variable to provoke certain hidden feelings or emotions?

So, would you curious about why watch seems to be so unfortune to me?

So, why I would set this post as Prophecy of Watches?

Back to few years back, I received a CASIO watch as my birthday present. Things initially went kind of smooth and lovely, I would say. And then, after some times, something bad happened! And I took quite some times to get myself out of the hell..

And... this time, I received this SEIKO watch as Christmas present.. (2nd watch in my life).. Everything seems alright and lovely and seems everything under control and expectation.. However, shits happened again! Unexpectedly! And this time, this shits seriously affected my emotion and yeah, I am back to the hell, again...

I didn't think much though whether receive watch as present would be a bad sign or whatever.. As times passed, somehow, I believe that, perhaps "watch" is a prophecy of an ending of something I am owning at that moment of time..

So, should I have tell my friends never include "Watch" in the present list to me? Please, please do not ever take away my belongings anymore...

Ya, undeniable, I am still in the shits, still in the self-healing/self-rescuing process, I believe, it will takes me quite some times.. But I will try my best to back to normal.. (hmm, sounds so weird with this "normal" word, lol)

In short, personally, I believe that...
"By receiving a watch as a gift means I am going to lose something SIGNIFICANT in my life"
 

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

WhatsApp

有没有试过发呆的看着电话荧幕,懊恼为什么他/她明明就在线上,可就偏偏得不到他/她的回复呢?

有没有试过三不五时就查看他/她最后上线的时间?然后很想知道为什么他/她会上线呢?更想知道他/她到底跟谁在聊天呢?

有没有?有没有?有没有?
有!有!有!
我都有!谁会没有类似的经验呢?
我承认我有,很神经质,我知道。。

越是在乎,越是想看。。
越是查看,越是胡思乱想。。
越是乱想,越是逼自己走向崩溃边缘。。

我知道,我不应该。。
我知道,我该好好的控制自己。。

我以为,我真的可以潇洒地放下,什么都不理,不看,不要知道。。
我真的以为我这次可以。。
殊不知,原来我还不能对此事潇洒。。
反复的假潇洒把自己给逼得快疯了。。为什么要苦了自己呢?

我能不查阅WhatsApp的最后上线时间吗?
我知道,我需要时间。。

Monday, April 22, 2013

2013年的4月

在4月里,发生了一些接二连三挑战我极限的事。。到底想怎样?

这些困扰,多得让我不能呼吸,多得让我觉得人心难测,多得让我后悔为什么没有好好的保护自己,多得让我觉得这世界真的很恐怖,多得让我觉得心灰意冷。。
原来,我是多么的无知。。好可悲。。 

终于,在脸书里找到这么一个角落,一个似乎可以解答为什么我会那么的惆怅,那么的失望的地方-〉天蝎座 、Ta-的心情。

好喜欢里面对天蝎的描述:-


“天蝎座不怕吃苦,不怕受累,不怕面对困难,最怕的是对极其相信的一件事或一个人发现竟然全是假的,如果你辜负了我的信任,你将永远失去我 。。。”


“天蝎外表总是很冷很酷,第一感觉通常会给人一种斯文/文静而神秘的感觉,会让人有种生人勿近而又想深入了解的矛盾感。如果你能让天蝎御下自身的保护色并成为你的好友。你会发觉天蝎其实心底善良,重感情,易感动,多愁善感,敢爱敢恨!天蝎走的是极端路线,你对他一点好,他将十分回报。。”
 
 
“蠍子愛忽冷忽熱..愛在視察身邊人的想法..通過了審批的人蠍子將義無反顧的提供幫助..無法通過審批只能受到陌生的冷漠..總會情不自禁的生成保護色..只因害怕受到自己傷害..請別嘗試挑戰蠍子底線..因為只要你真的傷害了蠍子..蠍子會讓你後悔認識了他/她..蠍子的座右銘是君子報仇十年未晚。”
 
 
“不要对天蝎说谎,再高明的谎言也逃不过他的敏锐。不要以为他不知道你在欺骗,他不动声色只是因为他在思考,没有做出最后决定,而他的决定,通常情况下都是放弃,即便他对你有无限的爱和不舍。他的绝望与崩溃不会让你看到,哪怕他苦到极点,你看到的,仍然是一个平静的天蝎 ,因为还没爆发。。”

 
“天蝎座这个孩子,越难过就越不想说话,越难过就越喜欢听悲伤的歌曲,越喜欢虐自己,然后把自己想得一文不值,把世界骂得狗血淋头然后,难过好了,骂完了,又恢复笑嘻嘻的模样,又是一副没心没肺的样子。。”


很无奈,却要假装没关系;
很害怕,却要假装很勇敢;
很生气,却要假装无所谓。

我不明白,为什么明明就是你,却要假装置身于事外?
我不明白,为什么明明就知道,却要假装你毫不知情?
我不明白,为什么明明可以证明的东西,却要视而不见?
我不明白,为什么会是我?

此时此刻的我,眼泪不知流了多少回。。

天蝎女,真的有那么让你们讨厌吗?对你们真的有那么大的威胁吗?

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

I-M B-A-C-K

Dear Blog,

I am apology for neglected you for few years, never think of satisfy your hunger until one of my candidate (eventually become friends now) shared with me on one of his post during my down time... Mr.A, thanks for the sharing.. And now, Mr.A's post reminded me of you, I am sorry for being an irresponsible master.. (T.T) But somehow, actions not being taken though your existance was reminded... oopss..

In the office now, browsing through LinkedIn and chatting with candidates to obtain more info in the IT industry lately.. This is what I normally do to ensure that I am always be the first to collect the latest information, ya, I am a kia-su recruiter >.<

Dang Dang.... You come across my mind suddenly.. Oh ya, I shall feed your hunger again...

Before feeding you anything, the urge to feel the assertiveness of mine in those days mastered my hand motors... I am now reading one post by another post and another... 1... 2.... 3... 4... 5....n.... Now only I realized there were more than 200posts I had posted in those years.. Wow! How I did that? Hahaha... Ya, I used to feed you with words in those days to record the feelings of the day... I think I shall do the same now as recently there are a lot of unexpected issues happened on me, though I covered it well, but somehow the invisible heart is bleeding inside... I should have write it out here to ease the burden within myself...

So dear long-neglected-blog, would you allow your master to feed you with words again like those days?

Ok, my dear blog, I promise you, I will visit you regularly and feed you with words regularly, so you wouldn't starve anymore...


Regards,
Your guilty master,
Rachel Tan