又是时候发牢骚。。。
何为好？何为坏? 何为正当？何为走偏？Please tell me what is the criteria to determine these terms. 每个人对这同样的事有着不同的看法与想法。。你觉得对得并不代表别人也赞同。你觉得坏的，别人可能觉得是对的，没什么大不了。 大家站在不同的立场上思考，自然的，每个人的顾虑当然就会有所偏差。怂恿的话，听不得。事情往往都是靠自己去衡量，去评估。生命是自己的，自己就得负责。路是自己选的，一切的后果就得自负。
人嘛，总是自以为是。。。 可悲。。。 总是认为自己做的事是对的，别人就是错的。。总是拿自己的经验来衡量别人，自己的经验就是经验，别人的就不是。。总是口口声声地说自己到底有多伟大。。人，就是一个复杂的个体。。
有些人愿意听取你的意见，有些人则不能。有些人虽然不赞同你的说法，但他并不会试图的想把你的想法改变，因为，他知道每个人是不同的，每个人有自己的想法，有自己的累积起来的经验。他会让你自己去体验，自己去摸索。不是说别人的劝解听不得，不是说别人的经验要不得。。 听不听，全是因个人而定。吸取别人的经验，听取别人的劝解有如锦上添花，但并不是茫然的跟随。
你所经历过的事并不代表所有。。 你所体验过的事并不代表大家也有着同样的经验。。你有的只是你的经历，经验，别无其他。 Please do not ever generalize what you experienced in your life into others' life unless there is theories or researches supported your statement. Otherwise, it called naive!
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何为好？何为坏? 何为正当？何为走偏？Please tell me what is the criteria to determine these terms. 每个人对这同样的事有着不同的看法与想法。。你觉得对得并不代表别人也赞同。你觉得坏的，别人可能觉得是对的，没什么大不了。 大家站在不同的立场上思考，自然的，每个人的顾虑当然就会有所偏差。(strongly agree with ur statemet.. as wat i always asked my fren to determine wat is right? n wat is wrong...)
for me, there is no right or wrong to determination...
全看我們角度觀念。角度，對我來説是決定我們態度的主要因數。就算我們的方向是對的，但是如果角度不適合，一樣能影響我們的感知能力，做出錯誤的判斷。。觀念，觀念的分別就在人與人的差別。是社會影響我們的觀念，是家庭背景影響我們的觀念，是身份影響我們的觀念，是權力，是欲望，是經歷影響我們人與人的差別，影響我們觀念的差別。。不知你讚不贊成。。打個比如，你今天的心情特別的好，好到不得了。你在醫院附近的咖啡館排隊買咖啡。很享受，很輕鬆。你是個沒耐性的人。一排隊就聽到前面一些小孩子的哭叫聲，完全防挨了你今天的心情，和時間。然而，他們的母親沒出聲，沒控制她的小孩。不過一出手只懂得打他們，真得很不負則任。小孩一直哭，一直哭。又妨礙你的時間和心情。我問你，你會如何看這位母親？全場的人都看這他，可她也一樣沒反應。你認爲這位母親是對，還是錯？是好，還是坏？於是有個人頂不順，跑向前去問她，你可不可別打他們？叫他們停聲？他回答說，我不能。。我沒能力控制他們。。我昨晚也哭個不停，我昨晚也控制不到我自己。我的丈夫和父母剛剛車禍去世。我真的沒辦法在控制他們。。。你聽到時，又對這位母親的看法又如何？？如果你從不知道這事實，你的看法又如何？
沒有對與錯，只有體諒和包容。。你又讚不贊成？
也許我比較主管，先入爲主，把我的經驗去判斷別人。不過，我就是我。這就是我。
To : days without rachel
walao~ bullshitting!!!
井底之蛙，一般见识，不知所谓，语无伦次，大言不惭，无药可救，装模作样，一文不值,墨守成规，一事无成，閒言赘语,一知半解，鬼话连篇,长恶不悛,一败涂地，鬼迷心窍,一偏之见，痴人说梦,一无所知，谩辞譁说,顽固不化,一无所能，人穷志短,一塌糊涂，胡言乱语，强词夺理,轻诺寡信,执迷不悟,闭明塞聪,閒言泼语,顾影自怜
真是不吐不快...
结论:
Hospital Bahagia Tanjung Rambutan
Tanjung Rambutan,
31400 Ipoh.
Tel : 533 2333
Fax : 533 4650
Dear days without rachel,
With regards to your post,our line of psychiatrists has diagnosed you with serious mental disorder, though we have yet to identify the specific disorder, thus you had won a luxurious ride in our V.I.M.P limosine to our place, which is on the way as you read this.Please prepare and pack your personal belongings as you will not want to leave this place when you reach here, because this place, as stated in various media,is popularly known as "The Heaven for V.I.M.P". You will be warmly welcomed by other V.I.M.Ps which you should feel honoured because they are the celebrities in here. You will undergo some treatments befpre we can decide which room you can be given FOC, ranging from Presidental Suite to Normal Guest Room, all with adequate amenities and qualified professionals to be at your service anytime anywhere in TRHB
Hope you will enjoy your stay here later on, good day.
Yours sincerely,
TRHB-Very Important Mental Patient Customer Service
rachel,
you're more matured than most people of your age. yes you might be weak inside but people do not need to show their weakness all the time. showing people your weakness all the time will only let yourself be further abused and taken advantage of. an ability to put up a strong front is a skill that should be admired especially if that strong front is a long way from your true self.
cheers,
to little lulu, trhb, and anonymous,
thanks to you guys for leaving comment to 'days without rachel', he (i assume is a HE) should receive some punishment indeed. thanks to you guys
to anonymous,
i guess i know who are you, and thanks to chat with me yesterday when i need somone =) thanks
Cheers to everyone~
Dear Rachel,
You don't need to show heartfelt gratitude to us, we are just trying to promote our service to the world.
Thanks to bloggers like you that we were able to pull in customers to stay here to increase our company's profile and reputation.
Our C.E.O is such a pusher, and that we have no choice to seek customers from blogs, we are the one who should say thank you =)
Have a great day ahead!
wahhh... how come so many arrows r pointing to me huh.? little lulu? thrb? anonymous? anyhow nice to meet u guys here...maybe we will be fren 1 day... i have no comment toward u guy's comment... but trhb, im not studying psychiatrists,pls don use ur psychologic theory to talk to me, i really cant understand ... n use simple english words to give me comment k.. i lazy to check dictionary...
Rachel, if u really don like i left comment on ur blog, u can tell me straight, just leave me a msg "don ever ever give me comment, i don like or watsoever" i will stoppppp...
Dear days without rachel,
I apologize for my usage of psychological terms/theory, please allow me to explain...
Mental disorder/mental illness is refering to "disease of the brain" or "sickness of the brain".
That's the only psychological term I used, although it's also a normal English term, yet I still apologize.
As for others, if you can't understand what I wrote, I suspect that you are having serious language learning problem, though you might disgree with me, please allow us to do a round of checkups to clarify it.
We were wondering why were you still able to post a comment as you should be here in TRHB already, and there is no internet connection in this building as I recalled, please wait patiently as I try to reach the transportation department whos in charge of your luxurious ride here as there might be a little technical problem.I apologize in behalf of TRHB.
Hope to see you soon here...
Regards,
TRHB-Very Important Mental Patient Customer Service
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